Owen Thiele envisions a festive gathering that brings together his immediate family along with his chosen family. Unlike some, who might feel anxious about combining these social circles, he revels in the joy of merging connections. Holiday seasons can demand a lot from our time and attention, yet he’s ready to embrace it. “I love bringing people together, sorry,” he shares with Popsugar. His enthusiasm is infectious.
Thiele recognizes the value in his strong relationships and appreciates the time spent with loved ones, whether in larger groups or intimate settings. This connection is never a burden for him.
However, he doesn’t forget those who dread the holidays. In partnership with Baileys Irish Cream and New York City’s Funny Face Bakery, he created a festive cookie pack titled “Swap the Small Talk.” This clever initiative features witty one-liners to sidestep uncomfortable questions like, “How’s your job going?” or “When will we see grandkids?” What a thoughtful approach to navigating holiday conversations.
We caught up with the “Adults” star to discuss how he stays grounded during festive chaos, the dynamics between his childhood friend and his new friendship with Emma Chamberlain, the most disappointing gift he’s ever received, and even his wedding party plans (no, he’s not engaged, don’t ask, Grandma).
Popsugar: What type of holiday small talk do you dislike the most?
Owen Thiele: I really can’t stand prescriptive small talk where family members dictate what they think you should be doing, especially when they haven’t done what they ought to have. I’d suggest they grab some Baileys and relax on the couch instead.
PS: Any strategies for navigating those awkward social moments?
OT: I steer the convo in my direction. Taking charge works. Or we can just dive into some games like charades.
PS: What’s the most memorable holiday party you’ve attended?
OT: Every year, my aunt hosts a Christmas Eve get-together where we gather around the piano and sing. It’s the sweetest, most wholesome night of the year for me. Plus, I once went to Seth MacFarlane’s holiday party. I was technically invited, but since he doesn’t know me, it felt like sneaking in. It was an unforgettable experience, surrounded by so many people I admire. With a bit of courage, I danced the night away.
“My ideal holiday setup has both my family and my chosen family.”
PS: How do you feel about hosting during the holidays? Is it a thrilling challenge or a stressful endeavor?
OT: I love it. Being the host allows me to take charge. I can play Sabrina Carpenter’s “Fruitcake,” choose the party favors, and set out the Baileys just how I like.
PS: While families get highlighted during the holidays, what about friends and chosen families? How do they fit into your ideal celebration?
OT: I envision both my family and chosen family together. My best friends are in my life constantly. We’ve got daily chats and FaceTime sessions, often including my mom. My dream is to host a large celebration with both lifelong friends and newer additions. Recently, I had dinner with an old friend and Emma Chamberlain. I had a blast sharing those moments — it’s all about merging the worlds I cherish.
PS: Does bringing different circles together make you anxious?
OT: Many prefer to keep their worlds apart, but I believe if I have love for someone, they should love each other too. I’m not apprehensive about making connections.
“I’m a big gift-giver, which sounds so much like a pick-me.”
PS: Do you follow a gifting philosophy during the holidays?
OT: I really enjoy giving gifts. It brings me immense joy. The best feeling is when someone mentions wanting something, and then you can surprise them with it. It feels like being Santa, and that’s the highlight of the holidays for me.
PS: What’s the best and worst gift you’ve received?
OT: My mom and I have matching necklaces that we wear daily. It may seem a bit odd, but it means a lot to me. On the flip side, my cousin decided to get me cans of tuna, knowing my fondness for it. I thought it was a joke, but it wasn’t — truly like receiving coal in my stocking.
PS: How do you maintain friendships during this busy holiday period?
OT: Even though I cherish my family and friends, the holiday season can be challenging. It triggers many emotions, evoking deep reflections. This holiday, I’m prioritizing self-care. I plan to pamper myself and extend love inward. It’s essential not to succumb to the urge to please everyone. If someone’s upset, I’ll revisit it come January.
